To set some context here, the title of my post is my opinion of my life. To give you some more background on why this realization, read more.
Very often, I have come across people who want to be the best at something or the other. I have wondered why? I could be wrong, but I believe it gives people a sense of approval from others (peers, parents.. you know the sorts) whereas it should be more like a sense of accomplishment for them.
Which brings me to my thoughts on approval! I never quite understood the importance of approval. For me, the only approval I need is from myself! If I can live with it, it is fine! I know one thing for sure, you cannot please everyone! so what is the point in seeking approval. Somebody will show disappointment and disapprove of you! Hence, you aren't the best!
I read this somewhere today and would like to share this:
"It doesn't matter if someone does it better than you do. You don’t get rid of clutter for someone else, you get rid of it for you. Comparing yourself to another person is unnecessary; you only need to look at your life and your needs to decide what is best for you."
How true is that! I don't want to be 50 and realize that I lived my life pleasing people and seeking their approval! I just want peace and happiness in my very ordinary life. Now that you hopefully understand where I am coming from, I will share some more about my ordinary life.
I love ordinary things like flowers, colors, the sky, stars, clouds, forests, beach, mountains, snow, traveling, reading, music, my partner, my parents, my family, my friends... you get the drift right? All these truly make me happy and content. I am very happy when I am on the beach reading a book until the sun goes down. I feel happy when my partner and I watch a movie together. I am elated when I barbecue with my father..I am overjoyed when my brother sings for me.. and the list goes on like that...
If you observe, all these things are very ordinary and quite easily achievable. I don't need to practice any of these or become the best at these. I can simply enjoy all these whenever I can.
So that is exactly what I will continue to do... live my ordinary life like a very ordinary person!
Very often, I have come across people who want to be the best at something or the other. I have wondered why? I could be wrong, but I believe it gives people a sense of approval from others (peers, parents.. you know the sorts) whereas it should be more like a sense of accomplishment for them.
Which brings me to my thoughts on approval! I never quite understood the importance of approval. For me, the only approval I need is from myself! If I can live with it, it is fine! I know one thing for sure, you cannot please everyone! so what is the point in seeking approval. Somebody will show disappointment and disapprove of you! Hence, you aren't the best!
I read this somewhere today and would like to share this:
"It doesn't matter if someone does it better than you do. You don’t get rid of clutter for someone else, you get rid of it for you. Comparing yourself to another person is unnecessary; you only need to look at your life and your needs to decide what is best for you."
How true is that! I don't want to be 50 and realize that I lived my life pleasing people and seeking their approval! I just want peace and happiness in my very ordinary life. Now that you hopefully understand where I am coming from, I will share some more about my ordinary life.
I love ordinary things like flowers, colors, the sky, stars, clouds, forests, beach, mountains, snow, traveling, reading, music, my partner, my parents, my family, my friends... you get the drift right? All these truly make me happy and content. I am very happy when I am on the beach reading a book until the sun goes down. I feel happy when my partner and I watch a movie together. I am elated when I barbecue with my father..I am overjoyed when my brother sings for me.. and the list goes on like that...
If you observe, all these things are very ordinary and quite easily achievable. I don't need to practice any of these or become the best at these. I can simply enjoy all these whenever I can.
So that is exactly what I will continue to do... live my ordinary life like a very ordinary person!
1 comment:
Good.. I am actually happy that you've realised that disappointments are a part of life and they will always be there no matter what you do. Keep life simple and keep posting
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